Happy Monday, friend! It’s time for another mom to take the plunge and answer some of my motherhood questions. This week’s mom is Ashley C.
Ashley is one of my husband, Sam’s, cousins. While we don’t get to see each other all that often, it is always a treat when we do. Ashley is so sweet and extremely thoughtful. The love she has for her little one, Isaac, is so evident. As you’ll read below about Ashley’s story, we have loved seeing the Lord’s hand in their family. Sam and I have prayed for them as they have been faithful in seeing the Lord fulfill their passion and desire. I love seeing stories of the Lord’s faithfulness in those around me, and Ashley’s story is definitely one of those stories.
1. Explain your “motherhood journey.” Including your kid(s) and their age(s)
Not long after Micah and I were married we started trying to have a family. Unfortunately we soon discovered that this would not come easy to us. We spent the next 7-8 years working with fertility specialists, trying on our own, and just taking breaks to enjoy our marriage. In 2014 after lots of prayer we felt that God was telling us our family would be built through adoption. I immediately told God, “just not foster care!” I just couldn’t imagine that for us. The thought of loving a child and then possibly losing them was just too much for me to bear. BUT God had other plans. We had all of our paper work filled out and ready to submit to an adoption agency and we just felt something was off. God was putting foster care everywhere in our paths. We had a precious boy in our Awana class at church that was in foster care, some friends from church has just adopted their two children through the foster system, and another friend from church actually worked at our local DHR as a social worker for foster children. We just couldn’t get away from it. So after more prayer we went into a meeting with our friend from church at DHR and left knowing without a doubt that this is what we were supposed to do. From there we applied to be foster/adoptive parents, took the required classes, readied our home and had numerous home studies and back ground checks. Then we waited. We were approved and liscensed as foster parents in November 2014. We received the call that forever changed our lives on January 29th, 2015. It’s a BOY!! I will never forget that phone call or the first time we met our precious boy. He was 6 months old and absolutely perfect. He is now 2 1/2. We have spent the past two years having home visits, birth parent visits, and court dates. Its been a roller coaster of emotions but so worth it. He brings us so much joy and we know without a doubt he was meant to be our son. We got to officially make him ours December 14th, 2016. We are so thankful for the seasons of unknowns and waiting. It has tested our faith and made us stronger. God never once left us, and we are forever changed by our journey.
2.What is the biggest lesson (or 2 or 3) that you’ve learned from being a mom?
Being Isaac’s mommy is the most rewarding, amazing thing I have ever had the honor of doing, but it can be the toughest too. As a mom I have awesome days where I feel like I have this mom thing figured out and I’m rocking it. Then there are the days I cry after I put him to bed because I feel like I am messing it all up. Luckily our littles love us no matter what. I have learned to embrace the good and the bad days because even in the midst of the really tough days I can always find joy. It’s in his smile, hugs, his little voice saying “I love you mommy!”
3. Share one (or 2 or 3) funny or sweet stories that make it all worth it.
Every time I pick Isaac up from somewhere he has been without me (school, church, family), he always greets me with an excited, “Hi Mommy!!” and a hug around the neck. Time always pauses for just a moment when we look at each other, hug, and say “I love you.”
4.What do you think the biggest challenge of being a mom is?
It’s the mom guilt. As a working mom, I miss out on a lot, and that’s really hard. I want to be there for everything, but that just hasn’t been apart of God’s plan for our lives right now. But we are so blessed with the daycare/school he attends. He loves his teacher and his friends, and he has learned SO much. He amazes me everday with how smart he is.
5. If you could write a “job description” of being a mom, what would it say?
- Story teller
- Boo-boo kisser
- Play mate
- Tickle monster.
- Best Job Ever.
6. What’s something from your family growing up that you think affects your parenting or the way you raise your child(ren)?
7. If you knew someone who just found out they were pregnant with their first baby, what would be your two pieces of advice for them? A practical tip and a piece of wisdom.
Enjoy every day. Don’t be so hard on yourself. The house, laundry, dirty dishes truly will be still be there the next day. Enjoy your baby!
When you find a bottle/sippy cup under the couch or seat in the car ( and you will) just toss it. Its not worth it. I promise.
As I was reading over Ashley’s answers, her trust in the Lord’s plan is so encouraging! Like she said in the answer to her motherhood journey, her faith has been tested, but how beautiful it is to see her on the other side! Our Heavenly Father has a plan for each and every one of us, and that includes our family, and we can TRUST Him in that. Ashley’s story just reminds me of how faithful He is, and I love it!
Thank you so much, Ashley!! We have loved watching your family’s story play out so far, and your trust in the Lord makes it even more beautiful to see.
What was your favorite thing that Ashley said? Do you have a question you want the Motherhood Monday moms to answer? Comment on this post or e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Know a mom that needs some encouragement or can relate to Ashley’s story? Send them a link to this post! The goal of these posts is to reach out, encourage, and empathize with moms all around.